It's like the internet is out to discourage me
It's galling, trolling the internet for statistics on getting pregnant over 40. I Googled in a frame of mind that I considered both realistic and hopeful, and found a vast, depressing world of disheartening, scary assertions. I can't quite bring myself to call them facts as it was hard to find primary sources, but they were reasonably consistent from site to site so I figure they're probably in the ballpark, if not exactly on the money.
I can't rouse the energy to properly footnote, but the gist is this:
- At age 40, 90% of a woman's eggs are chromosomally abnormal
- For a 40-year-old, 50% of pregnancies result in miscarriage
- The risk of Down syndrome is five times higher at a maternal age of 40 than at 35; there is a twofold increase just between 38 and 40
- Prenancies in which the male partner is over 35 are also at increased risk of Down syndrome
- Parental age is linked to significantly higher rates of autism spectrum and pervasive developmental disorders
- The risks of developing preeclampsia, gestational diabetes and other complications of pregnancy are significantly elevated after 40
- Advanced parental age is linked to more distant relationships with adult children
- Women over 40 are selfish, privileged idiots for wanting to have babies
- We should have done our childbearing in our 20s like Real Americans
Gah. I feel like a failure already.